Awkward Introduction (2)

A few years ago, I learned that -- referring to work / formal setting here, and especially if you are a Malay -- it's ok not to shake hands with men if you are a woman, vice versa. And the way to do it is to wait for the woman to extend her hand first.

(Ok, I do know what the religion says about touching non-muhrim maybe since I was seven, but this is not that kind of post.)

Although I don't have a problem extending my hand for a handshake, I love this 'rule' because sometimes I just don't feel like shaking hands. It's therefore a perfect excuse for me.

So usually, before extending my hand, I'd take two seconds to assess the situation: mine and the other person's. Occasionally, though, I'd forget about this and happily extend my hand without thinking.

This will sometimes create some awkward situations in the room ie when my hand is left hanging. It may not be that big of a deal especially that I understand the religious reason behind it, but there I'd be, in front of other people while this grown man is either mumbling something incoherent or pretending not to see my hand. I'm positive responses such as "I'm sorry, I don't touch non-muhrims / it's against my religion or values" are a much better option.

NOTE: If you aren't familiar with Malaysian culture, don't let this give you the wrong impression of our handshaking etiquette, though. We do shake hands at introductions -- most of the time, apparently. I'm just blogging the small exception I encounter at work.

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